tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6711916929453711540.post3506826753616685152..comments2022-03-29T13:33:08.494-07:00Comments on <center>The Twinkle Boss</center>: Time To Grow UpUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6711916929453711540.post-40074041276777618172015-07-06T10:07:34.170-07:002015-07-06T10:07:34.170-07:00I really want to hug you right now. This makes me ...I really want to hug you right now. This makes me so sad.<br /><br />I've found that, as I get older, my wardrobe gains focus. I've always been pretty heavily classic/gothic, so my wardrobe has been focusing more and more on florals, solids, tartans, and stripes, things that I can wear to work without too much fuss.<br /><br />I don't think you've been fooling yourself, but I can definitely understand feeling lonely and downright alone.<br /><br />The saddest thing, though, is to read that you experience confusion and shame about your looks. Not that I don't think everyone has some measure of that, but because it is to the point that the clothing you find beautiful isn't something you want to wear because of it. That makes me so very sad.<br /><br />*hugs* Keep trying, even if it's just a little bit at a time.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08221321378041840726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6711916929453711540.post-42186344546955414352015-06-14T14:53:36.377-07:002015-06-14T14:53:36.377-07:00You shouldn't wish to be somebody else. You ar...You shouldn't wish to be somebody else. You are great as you are. If lolita isn't for you, then that's absolutely not a failing on your part-- it just means you need to find whatever it is that will make you feel content elsewhere. I certainly don't believe that your problem rests in a lack of maturity as the title of your post would suggest. It sounds to me more like you have self-image issues that need addressing before you can be truly happy in whatever it is you wear and do.<br /><br />It must suck to find yourself so far from others who share your interests, and I can see how it would be a constant uphill battle to try to involve yourself in your hobbies more. I understand why wearing lolita alone might be daunting (particularly if you live in an area which is less than tolerant of alternative fashion), and I have experienced terrible loneliness in the past (well, I still do seeing as my friends live in different towns to me, and I'm in a long distance relationship). I will say though, that only attending meets once a month is how I managed to forge meaningful friendships. I had to take the initiative I suppose, and one day, after chatting away and getting along well for several consecutive meets, I simply asked if they wanted to hang out outside of a meetup and it went from there. I wouldn't give up hope just yet!<br /><br />If you're not feeling the meet thing, I wonder, would getting dressed up and simply spending a nice day with your soon to be husband be something you could try? Sure, it wouldn't be a meetup with a ton of others dressed like you. But you'd be with someone supportive, someone you know for a fact finds you to be perfect just the way you are both inside and out. <br /><br />I personally found the confidence to wear lolita by myself when I treated it as everyday clothing, rather than looking at it like special occasion attire I would need to psyche myself up to wear. I own many darker colourways and pieces which are easy to tone down. My coordinates are casual for the most part, and draw very little attention. <br /><br />Apologies for rambling... but basically, I hope you will continue to blog, even if it turns out lolita isn't something you can see yourself wearing from now on. I enjoy reading your posts immensely, and it would be such a shame to see this wonderful space disappear. I have so much faith in you, and I know that one day, you will be able to look at yourself and see the strong, confident, beautiful person you really are <3Spiffykiddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171770828732667123noreply@blogger.com